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I am not a purist or perfectionist. I have always been taught to look for faults in myself, before pointing fingers at others. And, I follow this because I believe in it. I have also somehow, never been able to market myself. I can never speak and say – Look! This is what I have done. I believe my actions, my work and my deeds will speak for me, as and when required. So, I do not talk, try and refrain from bragging.

I have also realised expecting the same from people is foolishness. Pulling down my morale is another foolishness. I have to stop behaving as an emotional fool. I do not have the capability to realise the motive behind people talking. So, I should not judge people by their talks.

All this was troubling me, when I spoke to one of my closest friend and also one of my mentors. And, like he always does, he spoke to me some magical words which changed my tempo, flipped my morale from sogging low to refreshing high. Me and one Mr. Manyu(another of my closest friend) always thank our stars that, this guy is present in our lives to grant us ‘salvation’.

He gave me a Bill of Rights. He read it out for me. Explained it to me, although the bill was quite explanatory in itself. And it worked wonders for me. I am trying to make a sincere attempt to reproduce the bill, although I know I have missed a few points. But, still…ammendments and additions are most welcome. Here it goes.

1. I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others
2. I have the right to my own needs for personal space and time.
3. I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings.
4. I have the right not to give excuses or reasons for my behavior
5. I have the right to be uniquely myself.
6. I have the right to ask for what I want.
7. I have the right to say no to requests or demands I can’t meet.
8. I have the right to express all of my feelings, positive or negative.
9. I have the right to change my mind.
10. I have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.
11. I have the right to follow my own values and standards.
12. I have the right to determine my own priorities.
13. I have the right not to be responsible for others’ behavior, actions, feelings or problems.
14. I have the right to feel scared and say ” I am afraid”.
15. I have the right to be in a nonabusive environment.

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